To answer your quesiton, I was pretty angry in college and right after. Also last year. But this past year I’ve been more grateful and glad being able to develop my career and be with my extended family instead of on a small island with my in-laws, with whom I have conflict, and working with people who held long grudges for minor incidents. I struggle more with fear, actually, although it may also be related to feeling out of control. I tend to let the anger and other unpleasant emotions eat away on my interior though and become physically ill. Not good either.

What a blessing to have found a good spiritual director whom you trust. I wish that every Christian could find such a brother or sister to walk along side of them!

Here is a suggestion that came to mind. Since you mentioned being “recklessly angry” with your daughter, and your wife noted how this may affect her understanding of God, and you love photography, I was thinking maybe you could take a photograph of your little one when she responds to your anger. Does she look frightened? Sad? Even angry as well? Maybe if you capture her response on film it will serve as you meditate and motivate you to continue to actively seek healing.